Tribe.net. Local Connections Cheif D http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/dac7ad4a-402f-4dd9-bbed-6eea05d21d51 2008-06-15T04:57:11Z 2008-06-15T04:57:11Z

<div>there seems to be a conflict between the group's name and some of the posts on here. are we really seeking relief(help with serious personal issues) or is this a more sociopathic means of hooking up? btw-i attended slaa meetings for over 7 mos but i dropped out for various reasons. maybe it didn't work for me. you?</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

Cheif D 2008-06-15T04:57:11Z gangsterboyscout http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/b5f51a28-570c-4ff8-8d8b-3a9c80460746 2008-05-24T16:57:00Z 2008-05-24T16:57:00Z

<div>One of the greatest survival skills and consequently the most maddening mind fucks for molestation survivors is the blackout. It simultaneously protects us from what we arent yet capable of coping with and makes us keenly aware of scents, scenes, personalities and myriad other triggers that either throw us headlong into disproportionate lust or fear with seemingly no rhyme or reason. It often makes us think we're crazy or imagining things while simultaneously a quieter voice says that there is indeed something - just out of our grasp of remembrance. <br/>----------------- <br/>One of my greatest turning points was a chance meeting with a woman who worked for the child welfare dept in chicago. Ironically her specialty was with sexually aggressive children. I chuckled and said, yep that was me. She asked if I remembered my sexualization. I said that I was quite sure I was attacked at age 4 because of my understanding of my triggers and a disrurbing conversation I'd had with my mother right after the event but that I'd never been able to recall the event. She asked me if I wanted to. After a pause I said "yesno?". She let me know that she'd help me if I wanted and after sleeping on it she took me through a regressive meditation the next day. <br/>Holy shit! I remembered the whole rape for fucking sure. It was terrifying on a primal level that I cant possibly describe. And I lived through it, much to my relief. It was cathartic in a very real way and was ultimately relieving to finally 'know' that I wasnt making shit up my whole life. It also made it possible for me to let them go. To quit carrying them around with me in all my decisions, in my friendships, in my sex choices. <br/>I dont know that I forgave them so much as finally just let them go. I held on to them all those years to make them pay, while all along I was the one that continually suffered. Seeing what happened - being able to put that piece in the puzzle changed me. It wasnt a panacea but I'm no longer haunted. It's given me a sight regarding my choices and who I am that I lacked previously. And my love and sex choices have progressively gotten better since. </div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

gangsterboyscout 2008-05-24T16:57:00Z Azar http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/01fd7101-5e09-4c1a-9b00-fa02f467ba2e 2008-04-23T01:45:11Z 2008-03-24T10:04:04Z

<div>donnbale kesi migardam ke mano hesabi bokone. har joor ham ke doost dashte bashi midam, kos, koon, sak zadan, har chi ke bekhai, har ghadr ke bekhai. behem zang bezan. 09123092379 azar</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 1 reply </div>

Azar 2008-03-24T10:04:04Z aschleigh http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/55f7f4c6-363e-45d4-b3bb-6451a922d930 2008-03-06T11:23:23Z 2007-04-13T07:07:40Z

<div>I notice that I am attracted to men who have the same addictive quaility in them that I have in me. I am getting out of a very addictive relationship now. I wish he would never talk to me again , becuase I can't stop myself from loving him, trying to talk to him. I know he is bad for me. I am powerless over my addiction. <br/> I am affriad I will never be able to be in love with a healthy person. When the ex treats me badly it feels familiar, when a new guy treats me well it scares me terribly. How do I change this? I think I need to be single while I sort these things out but I get so lonely. It is awful when I see the ex, but it satisfies something within me too. But I feel worse afterward. It is an addiction. I need help.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 16 replies </div>

aschleigh 2007-04-13T07:07:40Z Julia http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/1bc3d8a5-9411-4a0d-a37f-3b8418a9648b 2008-01-23T04:50:53Z 2007-08-19T16:12:48Z

<div>So, I was browsing the web today, and bumped into this interesting article: <br/>http://tokyodiva.com/7-ways-turn-around-bad-date.php <br/> <br/>Basically, keep these tips in mind if your date goes sour</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 1 reply </div>

Julia 2007-08-19T16:12:48Z Rain http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/85aeef99-b5fc-4d55-9a3b-dad1230ff2e1 2008-01-23T04:44:03Z 2008-01-15T07:38:02Z

<div>I think I'm in love with a man who is a sex addict. It hurts me when I find out that he's having phone sex and texting pics of his dick to anonymous chicks. And how do I know if he's only having phone sex and not actually hooking up? How do I talk about this with him? Am I an addict as well if I stay with him? I'm in alot of pain about this. </div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 5 replies </div>

Rain 2008-01-15T07:38:02Z ana http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/17cf42ee-107f-494b-bb6e-b7d98c13cf72 2007-11-18T04:39:26Z 2007-11-13T23:26:06Z

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ana 2007-11-13T23:26:06Z SpeakingEagle http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/b6223ba8-735f-48fb-a148-a11ccaee8175 2007-07-16T10:16:52Z 2007-07-16T10:16:52Z

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SpeakingEagle 2007-07-16T10:16:52Z Jamai http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/d1dd4c1b-f38b-4a1a-8381-616237a73517 2007-07-05T16:37:26Z 2007-06-22T22:07:53Z

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Jamai 2007-06-22T22:07:53Z Mario http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/62f1822a-c078-4b99-bd13-42d9a98cebd3 2007-07-05T02:02:08Z 2007-02-14T00:22:06Z

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2007-05-17T02:24:43Z Lifecoach4u http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/a1ea7001-00c2-47a9-9c57-d1f2f27cd03e 2007-05-08T16:41:57Z 2007-05-08T16:41:56Z

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Lifecoach4u 2007-05-08T16:41:56Z Joan http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/8339dfc3-7c82-4a93-bc82-9a17ab03c666 2007-05-04T21:29:10Z 2007-05-04T21:29:10Z

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Joan 2007-05-04T21:29:10Z Cindy http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/dde58ad6-dd08-441b-aef9-59d0ee7cf2f6 2007-04-28T23:11:10Z 2007-04-28T23:11:10Z

<div>My two cents.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

Cindy 2007-04-28T23:11:10Z http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/60f3ece2-4522-4bdb-8810-34aa95a911b0 2007-04-22T10:14:00Z 2007-04-22T10:14:00Z

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2007-04-22T10:14:00Z KnowledgeisPower23 http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/9e982974-9fe3-4880-8b40-f885d5aebb4f 2007-03-19T11:26:04Z 2007-03-19T11:26:04Z

<div>http://www.myspace.com/kpknowledgeispower <br/> <br/>It's called Soulmate, it's the first song up there. It's the first love song I've written since I was a teenager, it's the first time I've felt anything like it since I was a teenager. Anyway, it speaks for itself. Oh, and romance is not dead, we were just led to believe that by Sex and the City, Desperate Housewives, crap magazines and reality TV! Don't believe the hype. <br/> <br/>(I apologise to anybody who found this post months later as I may have replaced Soulmate by then. Hopefully I'll remember to delete this topic if I delete the song.)</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

KnowledgeisPower23 2007-03-19T11:26:04Z AmericanGeisha-Py http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/07cc8739-dffa-4fb6-935e-922c1290bba1 2007-02-18T22:03:06Z 2007-02-18T22:03:06Z

<div> <br/> <br/>1. With your voice: Build him up as a sexual man. Complement on his manhood. Tell him his manhood is to big, that it’s too hard, too thick, that yours is too little for such a huge one . When he does enter you, tell him how good his manhood feels, how it fills you totally. When you come, come loudly, animalistically. Tell him how good it feels as you’re approaching orgasm. Ask for “more, more, more” and “hard and deep; deeper.” Scream at the moment of orgasm, so loudly you must have been heard three floors or houses away. <br/> <br/>2. With your hand, shave his balls for him as he lies in bed. As you do, tell him how handsome his balls are, how you love his balls. Ignore his manhood getting hard, except to shave it, too. Focus on the shaving of his balls. Use a warm, wet towel clean the shaving cream away. Then stroke and kiss his. Be focused and obsessed with his balls, like every has been. <br/> <br/> <br/>3. With Your Breasts: In the bed, have him sit astride you and put his manhood between your breasts. Apply baby oil then push your breast against his, as though it were a hot dog and your breasts were the hot dog bun. Use your hands both to hold your breast against his penis, and to stroke his manhood, telling him you want him to come on your face. <br/> <br/>4. With Your Vagina: Tell him you want him to make love you slowly, so he can feel as you squeeze your tight, toned vaginal muscles around his penis. Respond to each movement of his manhood with an almost reflexive, uncontrollable squeeze of your vaginal muscles, as though his manhood’s movement brings from you a primitive, instictional sexual response beyond your willful control. <br/> <br/> <br/>5. With the tip of your tongue: Keeping only the very tip of your tongue very wet, lightly stroke the frenulum (the underside of the manhood) just below the head), then continue tracing a light stroke all the way down to his balls, where you explore his balls, then lightly stroke north again to his frenulum. Suddenly, plunge his whole manhood into your mouth for two seconds only. Then, return to the frenulum, then to his balls that you now suck hungrily. Go back north lightly to the frenulum. Surprise-kiss him again. Continue until you drive him crazy. <br/> <br/> <br/></div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

AmericanGeisha-Py 2007-02-18T22:03:06Z AmericanGeisha-Py http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/5db266f3-65cf-4155-b723-51cb030918c5 2007-02-16T21:38:44Z 2007-02-16T21:38:44Z

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AmericanGeisha-Py 2007-02-16T21:38:44Z johnbadams http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/a3cef7cc-4119-448a-aeaa-3b388a16396c 2007-02-13T03:25:34Z 2007-02-12T21:16:20Z

<div>San Francisco area meeting directory? <br/>recommended meetings? <br/> <br/>feeling shame, embarrassed by my emotions, obsessions, and actions... <br/> <br/>I am a good guy, when will I be able to feel reality again?</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 1 reply </div>

johnbadams 2007-02-12T21:16:20Z johnbadams http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/e0d991c9-4a11-4ecc-8dfa-724bc6fc1265 2007-02-12T16:10:30Z 2007-02-12T08:23:21Z

<div>here <br/>hurting <br/>afraid <br/>scared <br/>sad <br/>tired <br/>so very tired...</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 1 reply </div>

johnbadams 2007-02-12T08:23:21Z ruby http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/f5b1bc82-73f0-4620-8adc-54d4eb81bba0 2006-12-26T12:36:42Z 2006-11-23T05:32:24Z

<div>I can ahndle myself ok with a man , where i feel i have control over my emotions, and i know i have got him so to speak. If I meet someone who I have done my heals over, all my triggering emotions come up and I end up hurting him and me. I start to relive my childhood with the emotions i had with my parents. Anyone have any thoughts on this? <br/>ruby</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 3 replies </div>

ruby 2006-11-23T05:32:24Z ruby http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/51aa0c43-94af-4aae-a67b-732f69ba632a 2006-12-20T00:44:35Z 2006-11-05T10:43:34Z

<div>Hi I am new here just now...Came here via google, looking for answers to my addiction. Im an AA memeber as well, amongst other things. This one has rared its ugly head again, through another failed relationship. Sabotage set in again, and my obsessive behaviour. I got nasty in the end , and drank again.Other way around, drank then got nasty. Seems to be a vicious cycle</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 11 replies </div>

ruby 2006-11-05T10:43:34Z slaa http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/d7bbf4f4-833c-4515-b0ec-d84dbaa82dd4 2006-11-06T17:01:32Z 2004-06-05T03:00:51Z

<div>1.) Have you ever tried to control how much sex to have or how often you would see someone? <br/> <br/>2.) Do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that seeing this person is destructive to you? <br/> <br/>3.) Do you feel that you don't want anyone to know about your sexual or romantic activities? <br/> <br/>4.) Do you get "high" from sex and/or romance? <br/> <br/>5.) Have you had sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with inappropriate people? <br/> <br/>6.) Do you make promises to yourself concerning your sexual or romantic behavior that you find you cannot follow? <br/> <br/>7.) Have you had or do you have sex with someone you don't (didn't) want to have sex with? <br/> <br/>8.) Do you believe that sex and/or a relationship will make your life bearable? <br/> <br/>9.) Have you ever felt that you had to have sex? <br/> <br/>10.) Do you believe that someone can "fix" you? <br/> <br/>11.) Do you keep a list, written or otherwise, of the number of partners you've had? <br/> <br/>12.) Do you feel desperation or uneasiness when you are away from your lover or sexual partner? <br/> <br/>13.) Have you lost count of the number of sexual partners you 've had? <br/> <br/>14.) Do you feel desperate about your need for a lover, sexual fix, or future mate? <br/> <br/>15.) Have you or do you have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g.. the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc.)? <br/> <br/>16.) Do you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships? <br/> <br/>17.) Do you feel that your only (or major) value in a relationship is your ability to perform sexually, or provide an emotional fix? <br/> <br/>18.) Do you feel that you're not "really alive" unless you are with your sexual / romantic partner? <br/> <br/>19.) Do you feel entitled to sex? <br/> <br/>20.) Do you find yourself in a relationship that you cannot leave? <br/> <br/>21.) Have you ever threatened your financial stability or standing in the community by pursuing a sexual partner? <br/> <br/>22.) Do you believe that the problems in your "love life" result from continuing to remain with the "wrong" person? <br/> <br/>23.) Have you ever had a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity? <br/> <br/>24.) Do you feel that life would have no meaning without a love relationship or without sex? <br/> <br/>25.) Do you find yourself flirting or sexualizing with someone even if you do not mean to? <br/> <br/>26.) Does your sexual and/or romantic behavior affect your reputation? <br/> <br/>27.) Do you have sex and/or "relationships" to try to deal with, or escape from life's problems? <br/> <br/>28.) Do you feel uncomfortable about your masturbation because of the frequency with which you masturbate, the fantasies you engage in, the props you use, and/or the places in which you do it? <br/> <br/>29.) Do you engage in the practice of voyeur ism, exhibitionism, etc. in ways that bring discomfort and pain? <br/> <br/>30.) Do you find yourself needing greater and greater variety and energy in your sexual or romantic activities just to achieve an "acceptable" level of physical and emotional relief? <br/> <br/>31.) Do you need to have sex, or "fall in love" in order to feel like a "real man" or a "real woman"? <br/> <br/>32.) Do you feel that your sexual and romantic behavior is about as rewarding as hijacking a revolving door? <br/> <br/>33.) Are you unable to concentrate on other areas of your life because of thoughts or feelings you are having about another person or about sex? <br/> <br/>34.) Do you find yourself obsessing about a specific person or sexual act even though these thoughts bring pain, craving or discomfort? <br/> <br/>35.) Have you ever wished you could stop or control your sexual and romantic activities for a given period of time? <br/> <br/>36.) Do you find the pain in your life increasing no matter what you do? <br/> <br/>37.) Do you feel that you lack dignity and wholeness? <br/> <br/>38.) Do you feel that your sexual and/or romantic life affects your spiritual life in a negative way? <br/> <br/>39.) Do you feel that your life is unmanageable because of your excessive dependency needs? <br/> <br/>40.) Have you ever thought that there might be more you could do with your life if you were not so driven by sexual and romantic pursuits? <br/> <br/>excerpted ©1985 S.L.A.A. </div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 11 replies </div>

slaa 2004-06-05T03:00:51Z Bob Loves To See Your Pussy http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/e8e43b91-edeb-44f1-b15d-162f56207355 2006-10-11T23:41:36Z 2006-10-11T23:41:36Z

<div>Hi. Bob here. As you can see from my profile, I'm here to encourage women to send me pictures of their vaginas. I was thinking this might be a good place to spread the word. If you would like to show me your vagina, or know someone who would, please let me know. I will be glad to oblige.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

Bob Loves To See Your Pussy 2006-10-11T23:41:36Z http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/cf4f7874-1cd1-42cb-af5e-fde6065b99bc 2006-10-02T18:40:55Z 2006-02-06T21:03:58Z

<div>so anyone from Portland? <br/>I just got broken up with....and the sad part is that I am totally in love with her still....probably always will be.... <br/>how the fuck do you breath when you loose the one you always wanted.?</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 18 replies </div>

2006-02-06T21:03:58Z benjamin http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/f99ca5bb-d64f-4f7b-9556-69a009b54441 2006-09-14T16:37:17Z 2006-09-14T16:37:17Z

<div>Anyone here anymore????....Anyone live in Ky and need a fix???? Holla back (-;</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

benjamin 2006-09-14T16:37:17Z http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/9755e3e6-118f-4b45-a8cf-1f43a957647f 2006-09-14T03:03:56Z 2006-09-14T03:03:56Z

<div>Sign up a account here: <br/> <br/>The best place to meet INTERRACIAL singles in your city or around the world! <br/> <br/>Search profiles with personal messages, photos, blogs, comments and forum messages from singles that are anxious to meet you! Sign up for free to check winks, IMs, mails and more! <br/> <br/>http://nethub.bravehost.com/hotinterracial.htm <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/> </div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

2006-09-14T03:03:56Z joe http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/71e510b3-ee40-4989-9e27-45574e3a52fd 2006-09-13T20:40:24Z 2005-07-30T22:47:32Z

<div>I am in AA, and I read the 40 Q's and I think I have a problem. I just told my long distance girlfriend that I cheated on her and I am suffering from this wreckage I caused. I have reason to cheat but I did it anyhow. I don't want to hurt anybody ever again like this but I can already feel myself talking to more girls and it is just like taking that first drink...I know what it will lead to. If anyone has gone thru this process or has any advice...I am all ears. </div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 5 replies </div>

joe 2005-07-30T22:47:32Z http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/dfd76b97-1ad1-4de7-ae49-24630d2c58db 2006-09-07T01:53:08Z 2006-09-07T01:53:08Z

<div> <br/> <br/>Hi! Just want to say thanks for letting me join the group. I found a site where you can find all about France. Just go to http://www.francetraveltour.blogspot.com to see whats new there.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

2006-09-07T01:53:08Z http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/751adb1c-4c9f-4e25-9c32-c3bcde950260 2006-09-06T03:09:44Z 2006-09-04T02:38:28Z

<div>Hey - I'm new to Tribe and joined this tribe, oh about 30 seconds ago. The subject of the Lolita story fascinates me along with all of the psycho sexual dynamics in such a tryst... older man and very young woman, or these day just the opposite. Go girls, fuck those young boys. <br/> <br/>I was a Humbert and got fucked in more ways than one. <br/> <br/>Seriously though, I created a blog on my page and I'd appreciate comments, stories, insights, whateva as they say in Beantown. That R was thrown in to the harbor along with the tea. I can say that with tongue being firmly planted in cheek having been born in NYC. <br/> <br/>I'd appreciate comments here or on my personal blog. I started a tribe on the subject a few days ago to discuss the subject. I didn't realize the moderator can't make changes to spelling, grammar etc after the fact. So I asked them to take the tribe down until I learn to spell, which should be in a few days. Anyone responding to my blog will get and invite to join the new discussion group. <br/> <br/>So who fucked their teacher? Details?</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 2 replies </div>

2006-09-04T02:38:28Z maroonbaboon http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/2811d369-81c8-412f-9583-faf5b92f3634 2006-09-05T23:34:38Z 2006-09-05T23:34:38Z

<div>What sort of acting out did you do (keep it brief, remember this isn't exactly the privacy of a closed meeting) and what has helped you to find sanity and abstinence from acting out behaviors? <br/> <br/>I found that I was (about 18 years ago) rather addicted to one-night-stands with straight men because I couldn't really expect any intimacy from them and had nothing in common with them. They were cheap, easy and disposable. Today I am still dating a straight man, but we have much in common, he understands my bisexuality and he keeps me out of trouble. :P <br/> <br/>How about your recovery?</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

maroonbaboon 2006-09-05T23:34:38Z BlingAyez http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/18e3f95d-817b-4971-8aa5-f0c4e507aca5 2006-08-30T20:58:15Z 2006-05-08T02:41:53Z

<div>It was bound to happen sometime. I've been playing with fire -- trying to take care of my sexual needs w/o being emotionally attatched. I've felt disappointed in the past few months but this one got me. This one truly hurts. <br/>can there be sex w/o attatchement? honestly? Can ppl really fuck w/o feeling *something*? I'm trying but I can't do it. My FWB decided to take a break after I confessed feelings for him (rule # 1 never get drunk and tell him the truth). I feel sick -- ready to puke. Gone from heaven to hell in 24 hours. I want to cut myself so badly. </div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 9 replies </div>

BlingAyez 2006-05-08T02:41:53Z KnowledgeisPower23 http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/22c6fb0b-25b4-4285-bedc-757108054f18 2006-08-30T04:44:48Z 2006-07-25T11:39:43Z

<div>http://people.tribe.net/knowledgeispower23/blog/ae6d4d3b-990e-4b69-ab59-bcd25b9e4faf</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 3 replies </div>

KnowledgeisPower23 2006-07-25T11:39:43Z chrystal http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/7701ccb9-92f6-4d27-86e8-10e8e34ee3e8 2006-08-28T06:14:51Z 2006-08-26T06:30:14Z

<div>i hate love but i love the idea of love....i dont think i will ever have it given past experences.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 2 replies </div>

chrystal 2006-08-26T06:30:14Z purringpussy http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/26b1e094-b168-4568-bf87-54aaffc043a4 2006-08-17T01:29:11Z 2006-06-08T19:00:02Z

<div>Hey all of you I am new to this tribe and decided I would drop a note say Hi. I had backed somewhat out of tribe when I moved to Las Vegas But now that I am back to Sacramento I am also back full force on tribe. Reconnecting with old friends and making new... <br/> <br/>~~purr~~</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 7 replies </div>

purringpussy 2006-06-08T19:00:02Z David http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/68704ad6-205c-42f5-9098-8bf23cc1b2e9 2006-07-27T14:44:08Z 2006-03-07T18:01:49Z

<div>Hi, my name is David and I am a sex and love addict. I have been going to local SLAA meetings for about 3 1/2 years. But I am still stuggling with the issue of powerlessness. This past weekend I had what I hope is my last bottom. I put myself in a really bad situation and then had to call my partner to get me out of it. He was understandable furious. <br/> <br/>So now for the first time, I am ready to get serious about my recovery. But the issue of powerlessness gets me. I can see the unmanageability very easily. I just hate to admit I am powerless. <br/> <br/>Does anyone have suggestions they would like to offer? <br/> <br/>Thanks, <br/>David</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 4 replies </div>

David 2006-03-07T18:01:49Z Meow http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/c3925ab5-13a7-4cc3-bd62-cc41b4e40571 2006-05-09T11:01:21Z 2006-03-25T23:05:44Z

<div>I ran into this tribe. I decided to join it. I am thinking after reading about all these topics that I could relate a bit too much. It makes me wonder if this "addict" aspect is a problem? I know some of you guys or gals here go to therapy for being love/sex addicts. How does that work? Does it help? How does one know if one is even having a problem? If you just want a relationship and generally go for one and kinda like constantly crave sex... does that qualify. Anyhow after reading several posts, I can totally relate to most of what is written here, so I think it is clear I belong here regardless. <br/> <br/>Thoughts?</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 3 replies </div>

Meow 2006-03-25T23:05:44Z JeanPowers http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/92cf2f72-bb91-4fe7-b2bd-c80c25ae2029 2006-04-03T17:08:58Z 2006-02-19T17:43:14Z

<div>would you ever take a girlfriend back even though you knew she cheated on you just to spite you (or herself) - meaning that you understand she is being destructive and this is just something she is going through in her life.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 8 replies </div>

JeanPowers 2006-02-19T17:43:14Z Meow http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/e2c65a98-c13a-4724-b049-2930a8d54367 2006-03-25T15:54:34Z 2006-03-25T15:54:34Z

<div>My friend dated this guy for about a yr. and a half. She is a single parent and they had some issues. They broke up and got back together and things were great. Then she broke up with him again and it really wounded him. She said he just isn't going to commit. Now she wants him back and he is super cautious. She is convinced he is the "one" for her. She suspects that he is going to commit in time and says they really love one another and he is her best friend. He is against a relationship and she is not moving on. How do I talk to her and get her to start meeting new guys? Forget this guy? She always complains that she has no energy or time to go out. We usually do stuff with her kid. </div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

Meow 2006-03-25T15:54:34Z erdemtugsel http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/eeacde37-3863-4e83-a806-9e4972393e09 2006-03-02T01:48:05Z 2006-02-26T20:10:19Z

<div>What are the right words to make friendship????? <br/>How could we find our spirit matches????? <br/>And How???? What????Why????</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 3 replies </div>

erdemtugsel 2006-02-26T20:10:19Z http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/84b6675b-733c-4c84-853c-7fdee12e3988 2006-02-05T17:25:33Z 2006-02-05T07:07:37Z

<div>I will Love You !!!! <br/> <br/>As long as I can dream! <br/> <br/>as long as I can think! <br/> <br/>as long as i have a memory.. <br/> <br/>i will love u! <br/> <br/>As long as i have eyes 2 see and <br/>ears 2 hear and lips 2 speak... <br/> <br/>i will love u! <br/> <br/>As long as i have a heart 2 feel, a soul stirring <br/>within me, animagination 2 hold u... <br/> <br/>i will love u! <br/> <br/>As long as there is time <br/> <br/>as long asthere is love <br/> <br/>as long as there is u, <br/> <br/>and as long as i have a breath 2 speak urname .. <br/> <br/> <br/>. . . i will, b'coz l LOVE U MORE than <br/> <br/>anything in all the world !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 1 reply </div>

2006-02-05T07:07:37Z http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/0a2c767b-5ec2-465a-beeb-3d92e09a8845 2006-02-05T00:44:32Z 2006-02-05T00:44:32Z

<div>Roses are red and violets are blue, <br/>A gift thats picked out just from you. <br/>Uniqe and lovely some are hand made. <br/>Come and visit my website today! <br/>www.fullcirclecreation.com <br/>Happy Valentines day Tribe!! <br/>xoxox</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

2006-02-05T00:44:32Z smokey http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/4ab6cca2-ca7d-4e8a-9a42-032739248e9d 2006-02-02T00:49:12Z 2005-11-01T23:51:21Z

<div>alive???!?!?!</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 2 replies </div>

smokey 2005-11-01T23:51:21Z carter http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/e6fb5cc2-5ba1-4ac6-a171-0bb6d8fb4dae 2006-01-07T23:45:23Z 2006-01-07T23:45:23Z

<div>looking for queens to hook it up/trade pics - nothing to ... lose</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

carter 2006-01-07T23:45:23Z KissMe http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/4cd6156f-9661-40cb-8476-6c5cc8b2c9c8 2005-12-23T00:13:56Z 2005-06-12T19:39:01Z

<div>I'm sick of the Dating Game &amp; The clubs in NYC.Dinner and a movie then more games.I want to see if there're any girls out there that just want a sexy guy/just for sex. Now the new game is called "LETS KEEP IT REAL AND FUN". If your not really HOT &amp; Sexy it's cool,but not here. Every Girl has something sexy about them.So tell me what's sexy about you and lets make it happen. BE REAL!! ME? I'm a 26 year old actor and Model 5ft 5' tall.I'm a Funky Rock Star! I know what your thinking,I maybe to short for some of you.You need to let that silly dated idea go.I'll work that body out for you baby.I'm real cute and dame sexy, so you better be too.NOW I don't care at all about skin color.just have a nice body and sweet skin.I don't care about size,But lets keep it under 140pd, I got people who love me.I don't care how tall or if you got a JLO ass + 1. If you think i can't handle it let me tell you "MY SIZE FITS ALL, IF NOT I'll "MAKE" ROOM." haha FOR REAL!Be Clean,smell good with a cute face,nice skin and teeth and nice things to say, is all i ask.I don't need to know your life story,But your free to tell me.KEEP in MIND THIS IS FOR "GIRLS" THAT JUST WANT SEX!!" And maybe later we can be real cool friends,Not the other way around! Now look I'm just a nice guy sick of games (I'm not a dog),i know you must be sick by now too.So don't be made at me. If you want HOT easy sex with out head games say hi!We first meet to see if we dig each other, then if it's cool "We Dance" Deal?Stay in touch so we can touch. Theactivation@yahoo.com <br/> <br/>Much love A l l : l l</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 6 replies </div>

KissMe 2005-06-12T19:39:01Z Healthy http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/adc7b224-f442-4706-981f-99ebe30996db 2005-11-17T22:18:21Z 2004-06-05T02:01:08Z

<div> <br/>fellowship wide services <br/>http://www.slaafws.org/ <br/> <br/>bay area schedule <br/>http://www.slaa-sfeb.org/</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 1 reply </div>

Healthy 2004-06-05T02:01:08Z tommytroll http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/ddca945b-7185-43c1-8514-f804a114517d 2005-10-07T03:45:34Z 2005-10-07T03:45:34Z

<div>NOSE!!!! <br/> <br/> >>>>>> TROLL! &amp;lt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

tommytroll 2005-10-07T03:45:34Z louigi http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/924fddf1-8110-433e-b3da-deaa797e1993 2005-08-19T22:43:22Z 2005-08-19T22:43:22Z

<div>email for pics..... <br/> <br/>females only thanks......</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

louigi 2005-08-19T22:43:22Z merle http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/e468fd6a-263b-40ff-996a-ccb42c3143d6 2005-04-10T09:48:34Z 2005-03-20T10:24:51Z

<div>I am new and its been one week i think i am going thru WITHDRAWALS, my mind is racing and i dont want to give in to it but its getting difficult.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 1 reply </div>

merle 2005-03-20T10:24:51Z ahmed http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/26ae9c05-c795-4a55-adbd-0fdfc3326a7d 2005-02-09T12:12:21Z 2005-02-09T12:12:21Z

<div>hi from turkey to all <br/>im waiting message from you</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

ahmed 2005-02-09T12:12:21Z Healthy http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/be3e646e-0c3c-41bf-98d8-9de0c1ea8a9b 2004-06-05T02:28:29Z 2004-06-05T02:28:29Z

<div> <br/>make yourself an email account for free at <br/>any of the free email account places, try: <br/> <br/>www.emailaccounts.com <br/> <br/>ANONYMITY IS THE SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION OF OUR <br/>TRADITION.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

Healthy 2004-06-05T02:28:29Z Healthy http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/3165921b-c60a-4bca-b467-e255838843b9 2004-06-05T02:15:25Z 2004-06-05T02:15:25Z

<div>Questions Beginners Ask <br/>excerpted © 1985 S.L.A.A. <br/> <br/>What is sobriety? <br/>Sobriety is the return of choice, sanity, and personal dignity which comes from surrender to sex and love addiction, followed by involvement with S.L.A.A.'s Twelve Step Program of recovery. There are no absolutes for sobriety in S.L.A.A. as individual patterns of sex and love addiction vary. However, each SLAA identifies for him/herself major addictive behavior which is personally relevant, and becomes "sober" by abstaining from this behavior on a daily basis. <br/> <br/>How can I tell if I am a Sex and Love Addict? <br/>Only you can tell if you are physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually addicted to sex and/or love. Going to several meetings will tell you if you can identify with other sex and love addicts. Obtaining the pamphlet Sex and Love Addiction: 40 Questions for Self-Diagnosis will help you evaluate your sexual activities, romantic behavior, and emotional involvements. <br/> <br/>What is acting out? <br/>Acting out is becoming involved (or reinvolved) with addictive "bottom line" behavior. Addictive indulgence is hall marked by loss of control over rate, frequency, or duration of bottom line behavior. This loss of control always leads to negative self destructive consequences which, over time, continue to worsen. Acting out patterns, and therefore "bottom line" behavior, can differ markedly among individual sex and love addicts. This acting out behavior can run the range from obvious promiscuity involving countless individuals, to solitary acts such as compulsive masturbation, voyeurism, and exhibitionism, to obsessive commitments to fantasy and romantic intrigue. It may include hyper dependency problems involving one (or many) individuals. Some acting out patterns can involve all of the above, but more often a "bottom line" acting out scenario highlights one or two major areas. <br/> <br/> <br/>© 1997-2003 The Augustine Fellowship, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc. <br/></div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

Healthy 2004-06-05T02:15:25Z Healthy http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/d7f5a951-b066-4056-aa03-77a14d59bff2 2004-06-05T02:13:23Z 2004-06-05T02:13:23Z

<div>What is Withdrawal? <br/>A primary and critical step in beginning recovery from sex and love addiction is identifying our Bottom Line behaviors - those activities from which we must refrain in order to attain physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual wholeness. For guidance, we turn to our sponsor, our Higher Power, and other members of S.L.A.A. A change in our behavior - stopping the addictive pattern - one day at a time, marks the beginning of abstinence from compulsive and destructive acting out. The physical, mental, emotional, and often spiritual upheaval which generally accompanies the release of our addictive pattern is called withdrawal. Whether our craving is for sex, romance, or relationships, whether this craving is constant or periodic, not satisfying such a craving often comes as a shock to our system. <br/> <br/>Abstinence from acting out is initially followed by a period of withdrawal. The word withdrawal typically conjures up an image of substance abusers dependent upon their "drug of choice" to alter moods and/or escape from the present moment. Like drugs, sex and love addiction can become all - consuming pushing us toward greater and greater risk to our physical health, our emotional well-being, our sanity ... our very life itself. <br/> <br/>Times of withdrawal can be uncomfortable for many of us. Our bodies go through unexpected physical changes; our emotions hit highs and lows we never imagined possible. We feel, perhaps for the first time ever, the void which we have sought to fill with our addiction(s). <br/> <br/>The Experience of Withdrawal <br/>Abstinence from acting out on bottom line behaviors opens us to the vulnerability we have desperately sought to avoid. This vulnerability is experienced differently by each of us. The resulting withdrawal is sometimes recognized first by its symptoms: <br/> <br/>a craving to act out <br/> <br/>inexplicable aches and pains <br/> <br/>physical illness or exhaustion <br/> <br/>switch to a new addiction(s) <br/> <br/>changes in eating or sleeping patterns <br/> <br/>general self doubt <br/> <br/>desperation and fear <br/> <br/>suicidal thoughts <br/> <br/>desire to isolate <br/> <br/>obsessive thinking <br/> <br/>sadness, depression, or despair <br/> <br/>dreams of acting out <br/> <br/>emotional highs and lows <br/> <br/>irritability, anger, or rage <br/> <br/>preoccupation with fantasy <br/> <br/>confusion or trouble concentrating <br/> <br/>questioning of our interest in S.L.A.A. or recovery <br/> <br/> <br/>If we aren't acting out, then what are we to do? <br/>Sometimes, we just breathe. It may be all we can do, for the moment. Reciting the Serenity prayer has helped many of us pass that critical moment when we are tempted by our addiction. A phone call to a sponsor or other program member can help, as can reading an S.L.A.A. pamphlet, or Chapter Five of the basic text, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, where the experience of withdrawal is discussed in depth. Reflecting on the Twelve Steps can help us bring the focus back to the solution, instead of being stuck in the problem. <br/> <br/>We found that the most healing antidote to the gnawing pain of our struggles and doubts was to turn over any questions concerning the outcome of our withdrawal to God, or to whatever Power we felt was helping us to abstain from our old patterns. <br/> <br/>We might be thinking, "No Way! ... It's not worth it!" But the truth is, it is worth it. You are worth it. And you are not alone.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

Healthy 2004-06-05T02:13:23Z Healthy http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/a60f2a49-5674-4c42-b4dc-e6633b812838 2004-06-05T02:11:26Z 2004-06-05T02:11:26Z

<div>San Francisco Meetings (see below for East Bay) <br/> <br/>Common Locations <br/> <br/>3400 16th St. <br/> <br/>3400 16th St., San Francisco. Cross street: Church. Enter through Gate on Church St. about 50 ft. from corner of 16th. <br/> <br/>St. Matthew's Lutheran Church <br/> <br/>3281 16th Street, San Francisco. <br/> <br/>Monday <br/> <br/>7:30a - 8:30a - St. Matthew's. First Step/Bottom Lines Focus. Open meeting. 12, GC, SC, WA. <br/> <br/>7:30p - 8:45p - St. Ignatius. Building Partnerships and Healthy Sexuality. Open meeting. GC, SD. 650 Parker Ave., San Francisco. Cross street: Fulton. Enter on East side of church, downstairs. <br/> <br/>Tuesday <br/> <br/>7:30a - 8:30a - St. Matthew's. Healthy Intimacy. Open meeting. GC, SC. <br/> <br/>6:45p - 7:45p - 3400 16th St. Tools/Step Study &amp; Meditation. Open meeting. 12, S. <br/> <br/>Wednesday <br/> <br/>7:30a - 8:30a - St. Matthew's. Focus on Withdrawal. Open meeting. GC, SC, S. <br/> <br/>8:00p - 9:15p - 3400 16th St. Focus on the First Step. Open meeting. GC, SC. <br/> <br/>Thursday <br/> <br/>7:30a - 8:30a - St. Matthew's. Newcomer's. Open meeting. GC, SC. <br/> <br/>7:30p - 8:45p - 3400 16th St. Focus on Anorexia. Open meeting. <br/> <br/>Friday <br/> <br/>7:30a - 8:30a - St. Matthew's. Beginning Your Weekend in Recovery. Open meeting. 12, GC, WA, S. <br/> <br/>7:15p - 8:30p - St. Matthew's. Open meeting. Women's. SC, SD. <br/> <br/>Saturday <br/> <br/>8:30a - 9:45a - Golden Gate Lutheran. Inner Child Focus. Open meeting. 601 Delores St, San Francisco. Cross street: 19th across from the Park. Enter though the south door and once inside, enter the first door on the right. <br/> <br/>6:00p - 7:30p - St. Matthew's. Uptown Saturday Night Meeting. Open meeting. GC, CH, WA, S. Chips last Sat. of month. <br/> <br/>7:00p - 8:00p - Davies. Candlelight Step Study. Open meeting. 12, WA, SD. Davies Campus on Duboce and Castro, San Francisco. Support Services Conference Room, North Tower, B Level. <br/> <br/>Sunday <br/> <br/>4:00p - 5:00p - 3400 16th St. Focus on Sponsorship. Closed meeting. GC. PLEASE NOTE: This meeting ONLY meets on the FIRST Sunday of each month! Reading / Sharing / Q&amp;A. <br/> <br/>7:30p - 8:45p - 3400 16th St. Healing from Fantasy &amp; Intrigue. Open meeting. SD. <br/>++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++= <br/> <br/>East Bay Meetings <br/> <br/>Common Locations <br/> <br/>Anonymous Place <br/> <br/>1414 N. Main St., Walnut Creek. Behind the store. <br/> <br/>Epworth Methodist Church <br/> <br/>1953 Hopkins St., Berkeley. <br/> <br/>Good Shepherd <br/> <br/>1823 9th St., Berkeley. Cross street: Hearst. Parish House. <br/> <br/>Grace North Church <br/> <br/>2138 Cedar St., Berkeley. Cross street: Walnut. <br/> <br/>Mandana Community Recovery Center <br/> <br/>3989 Howe Ave., Oakland. Cross street: 40th. 1 block north of Piedmont <br/> <br/>St. John's Presbyterian Church <br/> <br/>2727 College Ave., Berkeley. Cross street: Garber. <br/> <br/>Monday <br/> <br/>12:00p - 1:00p - Mandana. Open meeting. 12, GC, CH, WA. Den. <br/> <br/>6:30p - 7:45p - Good Shepherd. Discovering Spirituality in Recovery. Open meeting. 12, GC, CH, WA. Small meeting with lots of opportunity to share. <br/> <br/>7:30p - 9:00p - Anonymous Place. Open meeting. 12, GC, CH, WA, SD. Speaker/Discussion 1st &amp; 3rd, Step Study 2nd &amp; 4th Mondays. <br/> <br/>Tuesday <br/> <br/>7:30a - 8:30a - Grace North Church. Commitment to Recovery. Closed meeting. Men's. GC. <br/> <br/>6:30p - 8:00p - Good Shepherd. Working the Steps-Big Book Study. Open meeting. 12, GC, SC, SD. <br/> <br/>7:30p - 9:00p - Mandana. Open meeting. Women's. 12, GC, SC, SD. Den. Step Study 1st &amp; 3rd, Speaker/Discussion 2nd &amp; 4th Tuesdays. <br/> <br/>Wednesday <br/> <br/>7:30a - 8:30a - St. John's. 12 &amp; 12 Gratitude. Closed meeting. 12, WA. Room 210. <br/> <br/>7:30a - 8:30a - Resurrection Lutheran. Open meeting. Men's. 12, GC. 397 Euclid Ave., Oakland. Cross street: Van Buren, near Lake Merritt. Meets in Parish House. <br/> <br/>12:00p - 1:00p - Mandana. Open meeting. 12, GC, WA. <br/> <br/>6:30p - 7:30p - Mandana. Dating/Building Relationships. Open meeting. GC, SC, S. Den. <br/> <br/>7:30p - 8:30p - Mandana. People of Color. Closed meeting. GC, SD. <br/> <br/>Thursday <br/> <br/>9:30a - 10:30a - Not Specified. Therapists Only. Closed meeting. 12, GC, WA. Private Location, . Contact Don 925-798-1435. <br/> <br/>6:00p - 7:00p - R-Quest. Carrying the Message. Open meeting. 40 California Ave, Pleasanton. <br/> <br/>6:30p - 8:00p - Good Shepherd. Open meeting. Men's. 12, GC, S. <br/> <br/>7:30p - 8:30p - Mandana. Sex Addiction/Anorexia. Open meeting. Ivy Room. <br/> <br/>Friday <br/> <br/>7:30a - 8:30a - Epworth Methodist. Applying the 12 Step Principles. Closed meeting. 12, GC. <br/> <br/>12:00p - 1:00p - St. John's. Open meeting. 12, GC, WA, S. Room 201 upstairs. <br/> <br/>6:00p - 7:00p - Anonymous Place. Open meeting. GC, WA. <br/> <br/>7:30p - 9:00p - Mandana. Fantasy/Intrigue. Open meeting. GC, SC, WA, S. Living Room. <br/> <br/>Saturday <br/> <br/>5:00p - 6:30p - Grace North Church. Anorexia. Open meeting. <br/> <br/>6:00p - 7:30p - All Souls. In the Solution/Big Book. Open meeting. 12, GC, WA, SD. 2220 Cedar Street, Berkeley. Cross street: Spruce. <br/> <br/>6:30p - 8:00p - Mandana. People of Color. Closed meeting. GC, SD. Quiet Room. <br/> <br/>Sunday <br/> <br/>5:00p - 5:45p - Mandana. Newcomer's. Open meeting. NC. Ivy Room. <br/> <br/>6:00p - 7:30p - Mandana. Open meeting. GC, CH, SC, S. Living Room. <br/> <br/>7:00p - 8:00p - Epworth Methodist. Closed meeting. Men's. 12. <br/> <br/>++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ <br/> <br/>Key to Meeting Descriptions <br/> <br/>12 = Step Study <br/>GC = Getting Current <br/>CH = Chips <br/>SC = Scent Free <br/>WA = Wheelchair Accessible <br/>S = Speaker <br/>SD = Speaker/Discussion <br/>NC = Newcomer <br/>GL = Gay/Lesbian <br/>POC = People of Color</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

Healthy 2004-06-05T02:11:26Z Healthy http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/90a95f2b-91cd-45ee-a27f-2153df873f6c 2004-06-05T02:05:36Z 2004-06-05T02:05:36Z

<div>S.L.A.A. Twelve Steps <br/> <br/>We admitted we were powerless over sex and love addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable. <br/> <br/>Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. (H.P. = higher power) <br/> <br/>Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of H.P. as we understood H.P.. <br/> <br/>Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. <br/> <br/>Admitted to H.P. , to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. <br/> <br/>Were entirely ready to have H.P. remove all these defects of character. <br/> <br/>Humbly asked H.P. to remove our shortcomings. <br/> <br/>Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. <br/> <br/>Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. <br/> <br/>Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. <br/> <br/>Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with a Power greater than ourselves, praying only for knowledge of H.P. 's will for us and the power to carry that out. <br/> <br/>Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to sex and love addicts, and to practice these principles in all areas of our lives. <br/> <br/>©1985 S.L.A.A.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

Healthy 2004-06-05T02:05:36Z Healthy http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/c06452dd-6eb3-4344-b448-d646e42b9eb4 2004-06-05T01:58:46Z 2004-06-05T01:58:46Z

<div>The Signs of Recovery <br/> <br/> <br/>We seek to develop a daily relationship with a Higher Power, knowing that we are not alone in our efforts to heal ourselves from our addiction. <br/> <br/>We are willing to be vulnerable because the capacity to trust has been restored to us by our faith in a Higher Power. <br/> <br/>We surrender, one day at a time, our whole life strategy of, and our obsession with, the pursuit of romantic and sexual intrigue and emotional dependency <br/> <br/>We learn to avoid situations that may put us at risk physically, morally, psychologically or spiritually. <br/> <br/>We learn to accept and love ourselves, to take responsibility for our lives, and take care of our own needs before involving ourselves with others. <br/> <br/>We become willing to ask for help, allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and learning to trust and accept others. <br/> <br/>We allow ourselves to work through the pain of our low self esteem and our fears of abandonment and responsibility. We learn to feel comfortable in solitude. <br/> <br/>We begin to accept our imperfections and mistakes as a part of being human, healing our shame and perfectionism while working on our character defects. <br/> <br/>We begin to substitute honesty for self destructive ways of expressing emotions and feelings. <br/> <br/>We become honest in expressing who we are, developing true intimacy in our relationships with ourselves and others. <br/> <br/>We learn to value sex as a by-product of sharing, commitment, trust, and cooperation in a partnership. <br/> <br/>We are restored to sanity, on a daily basis, by participating in the process of recovery. <br/> <br/>© 1992 S.L.A.A.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

Healthy 2004-06-05T01:58:46Z Healthy http://slaa.tribe.net/thread/a1b7c6b5-2497-4c6c-bb1d-a3586a6e62a8 2004-06-05T01:56:50Z 2004-06-05T01:56:50Z

<div>The following questions are designed to be used as guidelines to identifying possible signposts of sex and love addiction. They are not intended to provide a sure-fire method of diagnosis, nor can negative answers to these questions provide absolute assurance that the illness is not present. Many sex and love addicts have varying patterns which can result in very different ways of approaching and answering these questions. Despite this fact, we have found that short, to-the-point questions have often provided as effective a tool for self-diagnosis as have lengthy explanations of what sex and love addiction is. We appreciate that the diagnosis of sex and love addiction is a matter that needs to be both very serious and very private. We hope that these questions will prove helpful. <br/> <br/> <br/> 1.) Have you ever tried to control how much sex to have or how often you would see someone? <br/> <br/> 2.) Do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that seeing this person is destructive to you? <br/> <br/> 3.) Do you feel that you don't want anyone to know about your sexual or romantic activities? <br/> <br/> 4.) Do you get "high" from sex and/or romance? <br/> <br/> 5.) Have you had sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with inappropriate people? <br/> <br/> 6.) Do you make promises to yourself concerning your sexual or romantic behavior that you find you cannot follow? <br/> <br/> 7.) Have you had or do you have sex with someone you don't (didn't) want to have sex with? <br/> <br/> 8.) Do you believe that sex and/or a relationship will make your life bearable? <br/> <br/> 9.) Have you ever felt that you had to have sex? <br/> <br/> 10.) Do you believe that someone can "fix" you? <br/> <br/> 11.) Do you keep a list, written or otherwise, of the number of partners you've had? <br/> <br/> 12.) Do you feel desperation or uneasiness when you are away from your lover or sexual partner? <br/> <br/> 13.) Have you lost count of the number of sexual partners you 've had? <br/> <br/> 14.) Do you feel desperate about your need for a lover, sexual fix, or future mate? <br/> <br/> 15.) Have you or do you have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g.. the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc.)? <br/> <br/> 16.) Do you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships? <br/> <br/> 17.) Do you feel that your only (or major) value in a relationship is your ability to perform sexually, or provide an emotional fix? <br/> <br/> 18.) Do you feel that you're not "really alive" unless you are with your sexual / romantic partner? <br/> <br/> 19.) Do you feel entitled to sex? <br/> <br/> 20.) Do you find yourself in a relationship that you cannot leave? <br/> <br/> 21.) Have you ever threatened your financial stability or standing in the community by pursuing a sexual partner? <br/> <br/> 22.) Do you believe that the problems in your "love life" result from continuing to remain with the "wrong" person? <br/> <br/> 23.) Have you ever had a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity? <br/> <br/> 24.) Do you feel that life would have no meaning without a love relationship or without sex? <br/> <br/> 25.) Do you find yourself flirting or sexualizing with someone even if you do not mean to? <br/> <br/> 26.) Does your sexual and/or romantic behavior affect your reputation? <br/> <br/> 27.) Do you have sex and/or "relationships" to try to deal with, or escape from life's problems? <br/> <br/> 28.) Do you feel uncomfortable about your masturbation because of the frequency with which you masturbate, the fantasies you engage in, the props you use, and/or the places in which you do it? <br/> <br/> 29.) Do you engage in the practice of voyeur ism, exhibitionism, etc. in ways that bring discomfort and pain? <br/> <br/> 30.) Do you find yourself needing greater and greater variety and energy in your sexual or romantic activities just to achieve an "acceptable" level of physical and emotional relief? <br/> <br/> 31.) Do you need to have sex, or "fall in love" in order to feel like a "real man" or a "real woman"? <br/> <br/> 32.) Do you feel that your sexual and romantic behavior is about as rewarding as hijacking a revolving door? <br/> <br/> 33.) Are you unable to concentrate on other areas of your life because of thoughts or feelings you are having about another person or about sex? <br/> <br/> 34.) Do you find yourself obsessing about a specific person or sexual act even though these thoughts bring pain, craving or discomfort? <br/> <br/> 35.) Have you ever wished you could stop or control your sexual and romantic activities for a given period of time? <br/> <br/> 36.) Do you find the pain in your life increasing no matter what you do? <br/> <br/> 37.) Do you feel that you lack dignity and wholeness? <br/> <br/> 38.) Do you feel that your sexual and/or romantic life affects your spiritual life in a negative way? <br/> <br/> 39.) Do you feel that your life is unmanageable because of your excessive dependency needs? <br/> <br/> 40.) Have you ever thought that there might be more you could do with your life if you were not so driven by sexual and romantic pursuits? <br/> <br/>excerpted © 1985 S.L.A.A.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://slaa.tribe.net">!!!SexLoveAddictsAnonymous</a> - 0 replies </div>

Healthy 2004-06-05T01:56:50Z